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I need your help…

If I have provided any value, info, entertainment etc at all over the past 6 years or so, could you please help me out by sharing your thoughts with me?

I put together this video to explain more, and a short summary below the vid.


Summary: Could you provide a testimonial (video ideally, or written) to if I have provided value, information, inspiration or even perspiration to you over the past 6 years.

The Most Difficult Path My Actually Be The Easiest Path


Imagine this… you are looking for success, and you look at your options, there are two clear paths in front of you:

Path A is the difficult path, it requires bravery, stepping outside of your comfort zone, and seems more likely to end in failure. Just the prospect of following this path terrifies you.

Path B is the easy, safe, option… you could follow this path in your sleep.

Which path do you take?

We all would like to believe we would go with path A, we imagine ourselves as brave, with massive potential… but if we are being honest, the reality is that most of us would go for the easier path B.

I see this every day, and I am guilty of it also… staying within our comfort zones, drifting from hour to hour like a zombie on autopilot.

But here is where everything changes for you…

You see, I believe that the most difficult path is actually the easier option.

Here is why this phenomenon occurs…

The Secret of the “Difficult” Path

Most people take the easy path, therefore there are millions of other people taking the same approach, so to have any chance of standing out on the easy path, you will need to be incredibly skilled.

However, less than 1% will ever truly step outside their comfort zones, so these brave few have virtually no competition… heck, they probably don’t even have to be that good, they practically succeed by default.



Imagine monkeys in a tree, there is adequate fruit on the lower and middle branches of the tree, but at the very top of the tree, on the most dangerous, scary, thin branches, is the biggest, juiciest fruit imaginable.

Almost every monkey will stay and fight it out with the other 99 monkeys for the adequate fruit, but one brave monkey will climb to the top and will find that it requires LESS effort than competing with the other 99 monkeys below.

Here is a business related example:

A friend of mine wanted to find someone to promote his products… so instead of taking the easy path, he took a deep breath and called one of the industry leaders… this industry leader agreed to the promotional deal, and it resulted in tens of thousands of dollars in sales… the industry leader then told him the following:

“Nobody ever just calls me up and asks me directly if I will promote for them, instead they either are afraid to ask me, or they send me an email which just gets caught up in the other hundred or so similar emails I receive each week. What you did was refreshing, and really stood out from the crowd.”

What’s more, the sales this deal generated were bigger than that of over 20 sales from smaller partners, so taking the less scary path of sending emails would require literally thousands of emails to be sent.

So as you can see, having the bravery to take the seemingly more scary and difficult path, will actually be much less effort longterm, and vastly more rewarding.

So if you have ever wanted an advantage that instantly puts you in the 1%, simply do what 99% of people are afraid to do.


Comfort Zones are like Coffee


Have you ever wished you could do something that you are scared of doing? Ever wondered what you are capable of achieving if only that voice in your head didn’t keep talking you out of it?

Today I had coffee for the first time in a few months… it hit me hard, my head feels like it is spinning…

However, a few months ago I would regularly drink a few cups per day and not feel a thing.

This is just like your comfort zones: The more you do something, the more used to it and comfortable with it you will get.

Take public speaking for example, I used to have panic attacks and sleepless nights from the prospect of public speaking, but I did it anyway, and over time got more and more comfortable with it.

There are no short cuts, magic solutions etc… you just gotta do it!

“But Dean, I would really like a memorable, short, and snappy quote that I can write down and post on my Facebook page”

Well you are in luck my good man/lady/lady-man…

Grab your pad and pen, ipad and finger, quill and ink or whatever instrument of the alphabets you desire….

Here we go:

A comfort zone is like a muscle of the mind, the more you stretch and use it, the bigger it will become.

BAM! That is one of my quotes… my mum will be so proud.

here is another: “Money is where the fear is” – unknown source.

Double BAM!

So go forth with your new found quotes and wisdom, and embrace your mind muscles.


Never Up Never In


I can hear thousands of people saying “that’s what she said” as they read this…. (you cheeky readers)…


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Here is the thing though… I used to play a LOT of golf, I was even trained by some PGA professionals, and they always had a saying when it came to the art of putting… “Never up, Never in”.

What they meant by this was that if you didn’t take a risk and hit the golf ball hard enough so that it at least reached the hole, then you stood ZERO chance of making the shot.

In fact, they would say that it was better to over hit the shot by 3 feet, than to leave it 1 inch short.

Even if you planned everything, prepared perfectly, and had the EXACT aim… you still had zero chance of success unless you reached the hole.

I believe that “never up, never in” applies to business and life too… if you don’t go for something with sufficient force, then you stand little chance of success.

So next time you are in fear, or have a big opportunity, remember… never up, never in.

Go make your shot.


How to Adapt to a New Culture or Country



 In the past 5 years alone I have lived in 3 different countries and 7 different houses, I have lived in Spain (Madrid), northern and southern England, Nashville, and near the beach in Florida…

  • What have I learned?
  • What did I do completely wrong?
  • What differences have I noticed?

Let’s dive into all of this and more…

Disclaimer: I don’t claim to be an expert, or to have adapted perfectly… I have made mistakes, and I don’t always practice what I preach, but hopefully you can get some value from my experiences.

Stop Comparing Things to Your “Bubble.”

One of the first things that happens when you go to a new place (even on vacation), is that you compare everything to how it is back home… the tiny little bubble that you have experienced will represent the norm to you… you will likely feel that the values, beliefs, habits and activities that YOU were brought up with were the right ones, and therefore everyone else’s were wrong…

Well guess what, that is what everyone thinks….

This means that you will compare food, quality of life, weather, people’s habits, beliefs, healthcare systems, roads and everything in between.

If there is one piece of advice I can give you to prevent you from being miserable and disliked, it is to enforce a zero tolerance on comparisons from your new place compared to where you were brought up as a child.

In my experience, it is almost impossible to convince someone that their norm is inferior to your alternative… and viceversa. This is often strengthened even further for people with “small town syndrome” who haven’t travelled much or at all.. as they literally know no better/different.

Let’s take sports for example… if I had a dollar for each American who just doesn’t get “soccer”… but the reality is that it is no surprise that they don’t like soccer… afterall, billions of dollars per year in media and advertising are spent on US based sports promotions… and viceversa.

Sport is part of our culture, and so only if you remove the media, the promotion, the schoolyard banter, the memories, the watching it with your dad as a child… can you make an objective decision… but of course, that is impossible, so instead you will state something as a fact without an ounce of objectivity.

What’s that? the food that you had once a week as a child is a food that you like and this new food that you have never tried before seems disgusting? Well that’s hardly surprising…

I personally just bite my tongue these days, but when I was younger and living in Spain, I would often claim that the food was better in the UK (haha, imagine that!), or that the beauracracy in Spain, or the religious hypocrisy was awful… but the reality is that complaining about it achieved nothing, and likely, it annoyed the people who were from Spain and knew no different.

I even had a heated argument with a man in Madrid who claimed that bull fighting wasn’t cruel at all… the fact of the matter is that while he more than likely was completely wrong, he was brought up with bull fighting, it is all he knows, and so it is perfectly normal and fun to him.

Left or right side of the road?

Aluminum vs aluminium?

Soccer or Baseball?

Who cares?! Getting defensive or argumentative is not going to achieve anything, and at the end of the day, you have chosen to live/visit this place, so a certain level of respect should be afforded it. Also, if everything in your hometown is sooooo much better, then why not get on the next plane and go back?

I should stress that these are not off-topic,  I am more than happy to go along with conversations when other people bring these topics up, but I don’t initiate them, and I don’t get defensive or argumentative when discussing it.

Tip: It is not your role or job to “fix” the new place you are living in.

Summary: Look at all the new elements as interesting, different, refreshing or quirky… embrace them… and remember, it is not a competition, and if you are choosing to live there then either do something about it or forget about it.

Find Your Niche

I recently saw an article from a guy who had moved from Texas to the Uk, and it was filled with reasons why the US sucks… but for most developed countries, there are plenty of niche options. For example, non of the complaints this person had exist in Florida.

Make a list of all the things you like/dislike, and in somewhere like Europe or the US, there is almost certainly somewhere that fits that criteria perfectly.

The same goes for the types of people you want to be around.. I have fired best friends in the past, so if you have friends who drain your energy, then go niche instead and get new friends.

For example, I decided I didn’t want to drink alcohol anymore as of late 2011, so I forced myself to try a new hobby (modern board gaming)… I now have numerous groups of new friends who would rather spend an evening gaming than in a bar or club, and so very few of them drink at all… coincidence? Not at all.

Likewise, complaining about the heat all year is perhaps a sign that you should move further north, or nearer to the beach… not everyone can just get up and move, but it is often more do-able than you make think.

Moving Will Be a Lot More Expensive and Hard Work Than You Think

I have moved house a LOT… I have had an entire 5-bedroom house of belongings shipped across oceans, and I have put all my worldly belongings in a suitcase and started fresh… one thing that remains constant is that it is always more expensive than you would expect, and more stress/effort.

Outsource as much as possible, if in doubt, sell or get rid of belongings you are not using, and take baby steps for the first month. It will be worth it.

Sidenote: Always rent for at least a year before you buy… the realities of day to day living can be VERY different than the 7 day vacation you just had.

Embrace Your Icebreaker

Rarely a day goes by where someone doesn’t ask me about my accent, I have spoken with other expats who find this incredibly annoying, some British people I have spoken to who live here go as far as to find it a daily chore… but personally I love it… in fact, my wife has noticed that I almost always find a way to mention to the checkout person at the grocery store that I am from England.

Embrace this, it is the perfect icebreaker, and a great way to make new friends. I would go as far as to create a 20 second “elevator pitch” on how you came to live in this new place… for example, I often say “two years ago I came to Nashville on business… and stayed for pleasure (haha), I met my now wife, we lived in Nashville for a year, and then moved to St Petersburg to try living near the beach, and we absolutely love it here”.

They are not getting a life story, but it gets across the main points effectively and efficiently, which is important for something you are likely to do a few hundred times per year.

Learn the Lingo

My most important advice for living in a new place is to make a real effort to learn the language… during my time in Spain I was terrified of making mistakes, and so I didn’t dive into the language as I should have. This drastically affected my time there… so learn from my mistakes.

But what if you are moving to a place where they speak the same language but use different pronunciations or slang terms?

Personally I am a big believer in making an effort to be understood… for example, I now pronounce “Z” as “zee” instead of “zed”… not a big deal, but is it worth not being understood every now and then for the sake of a small change? Not at all…

Does that mean that I go around saying “howdy ya’ll”? No, not at all, but likewise, I drop a lot of my regional slang from Northern England… I know many people will claim that keeping those things is fun and unique, and to some extent you are right… but after 7 years of not being understood very well in Spain, and for someone who relies on effective communication for a career, I find that making the effort to be understood is worth the time and energy.

Having to repeat your order two or three times in a row in a restaurant gets tiring pretty quickly, so making an effort to adapt your speech or pronunciations is often well worth the time.

On a sidenote, we have made British friends who live in the US who can barely be understood… while it may seem amusing at first, I am sure it can be very frustrating for both sides after a while.


They say that travel broadens the mind, and I couldn’t agree more… but if you travel with your blinkers on, and start comparing everything to your little bubble then you will be left frustrated and dissatisfied.

Embrace the change, find your niche, take action on the areas that you can change, and ignore the rest… and remember, no two people are the same, embrace your differences, learn, and have fun. Life is too damn short not to.