Did you finish daemonic confidence ? I’m thinking about doing it myself, but it takes a lot of time and approaching girls isn’t a problem anymore.

Maik
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Great advice, many thanks.

Funnily enough, approach anxiety is not something I really struggle with. I will check out your suggestions though.

You rock.

Dean

Being in the pickup community more than you and having some friends that are there in over 30 years (I have a friend who’s there from 13 lol and he’s now 25) I think I need to give you some piece of advice:

1) Chris Brogan mentioned VH1 Mystery show. F*** that. Mystery is full of routines. Actually, do you know that Mystery once was in a suicidal clinics? He wanted to take his life. Yeah, I suppose you don’t wanna learn from a person like this. While some of his routines work and are great, his whole approach in my opinion is a bit flawed because it is based TOTALLY on routines. Where’s the part of ’showing your personality’ and not actually hiding behind some ‘pickup artist persona’?

Body language is good. It’s just that it’s garbage to focus on it. David De Angelo has put this right I think in his book DYD. Focusing on the body langauge, the way you move your arms etc is stupid…just relax don’t get your arms crossed relax your shoulders…that’s it.

Here’s the bummer: While most dating books will give you some clues about women…reading them with hope you gonna get better with women is brain masturbation. It’s like reading internet marketing books with hope that reading more and more will make you rich. You need to take action. How to take action?

Programs. Demonic confidence is a progressive conditioning approach which is kinda good but if you’re a beginner maybe it might not be suitable for you…the first day is to ask 30 women for the time as quickly as possible which is even kind of ‘too push yourself’ for me…plan to finally do those 30 approaches tomorrow because I’ve been struggling with not being able to do more than 10 approaches in a row.social pressure and s*** There’s some other programs as street approach which is kind of more relaxed starts with asking 1 woman for the time and then going up to 22. Then you go up to some ‘harder’ missions.

cognitive behavioral therapy has also a good training it’s good for shy people…although it is NOT only for shy people it is also for people that have somewhat anxieties of approaching women.

But the basics come to going to streets, clubs and approaching. That’s how you gonna influence your unconscious mind that’s blocking you from…going to the hottest girl on the street and asking her on joke: Hey, wanna f***? (there’s some videos on youtube on guys doing this btw)

As for your ‘inner game’ there’s one good guy from UK who knows well about this his website is http://www.innergametapping.com. It worked on many people on removing anxieties while not only approaching but doing…anything.

I’ve personally been a very, VERY shy person 2 years ago. I couldn’t even talk to a girl in a friendly manner. Now’s very different. I can talk to any woman with ease and even start flirting. I’m starting to work on that part more though. So, there’s something I must know about this stuff, right?

Also online dating is a great way for practicing skills with women…I’ve been to one date but screwed that up LOl…but now took 3 numbers from MSN and hi5 and I’m on the way to scheduling those dates …like David D. says…fail forward FAST. Learned that also from experience, the more you fail forward, the more faster you learn.

There’s nothing more gratifying that the ability to express your personality without any constrains. On stage, on the street when talking to a stranger girl…ANYWHERE. Believe me, I’ve experienced this in the past days it’s the most beautiful feeling in the world.

Btw, if you’re looking for pickup ‘gurus’ the best in my opinion are: Tyler Durden and Social Dynamics, David Di Carlo (for clues, not for training material), Lucas West (the guy from Demonic confidence), Nein Strauss (I haven’t read the Game but tried his Style Life academy where you have some approaching lessons too) and the inner game guy.

Hope this helped.

Thanks for the advice.

Dean