How to Get Almost Anything You Want

Wouldn’t it be cool if you could get almost anything you wanted?

It sounds like a dream, but to some extent, and if done correctly, it can be achieved. In this post I will share how I had one of the world’s most famous comedians and tv stars write jokes for me, saved thousands of dollars, and was able to get my hands on stuff before almost anyone else on the planet.

For this tasty little recipe, you will need the following ingredients:

* A big spoon of hustle
* Big cojones (balls)
* The right mindset and strategy

Before we dive into this, I must stress that credit for this must go to my dad… he always used to say “Dean, if you don’t ask, you don’t get”… and it was later in life that I realised how true this was.

I once remember my dad getting 20% off a pair of shoes at a local market… he did this by a) asking, b) claiming to be a fellow market trader.

A little naughty, but there is nothing wrong with a healthy dose of hustle.

From a mindset perspective, you need to understand that by NOT asking, you are, by default, getting a NO answer.

What’s the worst that can happen? They say no… SO WHAT?!?

I have managed to get thousands of dollars of discount on a new car by just asking… but I also have gotten some pretty strange things as well.

For example, in 2009 I contacted Jimmy Fallon, who is known in the US as a Saturday Night Live performer, and he also now is a late night talk show host… in short, he is a BIG celeb in the US.

Anyway, I contacted him on Twitter, and used a combination of balls, some hustle, and a weird strategy…

Note: I have since changed to @DeanHunt on Twitter.

Anyway, here was my mindset and strategy with this message:

1) It was personal and specific… I referenced something he did the previous day.
2) I went in with the posture that A-list celebrity Jimmy Fallon was an old friend, and we hadn’t spoken for a while…. notice how I refer to him as “Jimbo”, which in my head, seemed like a name only his closest or oldest friends would call him.
3) “Speak soon” was a subtle call to action… it was asking for a reply, without lowering my perceived status and actually ASKING for a reply. It was also a presupposition (which is a fancy way of basically assuming with confidence that someone will do something… a great example of this is to say “WHEN you signup to my program” as opposed to “IF you signup”.

Shortly after, I got this in my inbox:

A few direct messages were sent, and one of them said something like “Jimmy, remind me, what is the best email address to reach you at? I have something that may be of interest”.

An hour later, I have his direct email address…

Long story short, I discussed my up’coming speaking debut, he is a world famous live performer, so I figured he may be able to help… I was specifically looking for a way to open my gig, and Jimmy kindly wrote a joke for me as an opener… that’s right, Saturday Night Live’s Jimmy Fallon was writing jokes… for ME!!

Business Insider did a feature at the time, due to the fact that Fallon had almost 100,000 followers (that was a LOT in 2009)… and listed the 59 people that Jimmy was following… your’s truly was one of them: http://www.businessinsider.com/whos-jimmy-fallon-following-on-twitter-2009-2

That’s right, amongst Shaq, and Lance Armstrong… was little ol me. How weird.

Now, I know this example is a little naughty, I admit that… I thanked Jimmy greatly via email, and we had some fun… no harm was done at all… but I hope this shows an extreme example of how the seemingly impossible can be achieved, by ASKING.

You could easily use this strategy to get access to celebs to get involved in your charity work.

Another, more recent example focuses on the importance of identifying what’s in if for THEM.

You see, if you want to get something, then you NEED to focus on the benefits to the other person.

So here’s the story…

I love video games, and every now and then a game is on the horizon that I simply cannot wait for…

One such game is entitled “Runespell Overture“, it combines poker, with trading cards, and an RPG puzzle element… this to me, is potentially crack in video game format.

Unfortunately, the game isn’t released until July… so, I asked.

It didn’t take Sherlock Holmes to find the developer’s Twitter account, and so I sent the above message… notice how I am essentially saying : If you do this for me, I will do this for you.

A win/win is essential to get what you want.

A few hours later I get an email from the awesome Barry at Runespell, who kindly offers to give me early access. He also read my blog and it turns out we share some interesting mindsets and beliefs.

I of course, offered to pay full price for the Beta.. as I like to support developers. But it means I am getting it weeks before the release date, just from asking.

Summary:

It doesn’t matter if you want to save thousands on a car, or 20% of shoes… perhaps you are looking for an opportunity, or to open a door… if you follow the advice above, and throw in a good measure of hustle, have balls, ASK, and focus on a win/win, you can’t go wrong… and remember, the worst that can happen is they say no.

  • http://www.inyourfacewisdom.com James Howard

    Hey Deano, :-)

    Fantastic, I never really thought about making it into a win/win before but of course in all cases that it can be done it should be done.

    I was about to ask a few people if they would do an interview with me and will keep that in mind for sure. (I’ll inbox you later) :-)

    I guess in marketing the need for a win/win is even greater then others.

    Speak soon, :-)

    James

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  • http://deanhunt.com Dean Hunt

    For an interview, the wins for the guest are: Exposure, traffic, the ability to pitch and sell their stuff, credibility, a door into a new audience, ego boost etc… ;-)

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  • http://facebook.com/AdryennAshley Adryenn Ashley

    You crack me up! This is precisely how I got Tony Robbins to follow me, get mystery packages in the mail everyday asking me to try it out, and invites to walk the red carpet! Attitude and Hustle! Now wonder I liked you from the start. Love the “crack” comment. Talk soon about that little project I mentioned before… oh yeah!

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  • http://www.runespell.com Barry Hoffman

    Hello Dean,

    I think you are very good at weaving one subject with another, which is vital in creating new content.

    Consider us a fan and inspired already:).

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  • http://deanhunt.com Dean Hunt

    Thanks Barry,

    You managed to do the same with your up’coming game… thanks again for your help, and I look forward to reviewing the game.

    Dean

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  • http://www.adventuresininternetmarketing.net Matt Duggan

    Deano! Good work buddy.

    Love that you got your hustle on and made the elite list of Jimmy’s ‘ones to watch’.

    Incidentally, did you get my Facebook message about guesting on my iTunes/marketing podcast?

    Speak soon. ;)

    Snoop Duggan

    (How was that?)

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  • http://cabo-timeshare.com Bill

    I wonder if Jimmy would agree to this favor now? ;)

    His fame and popularity have certainly risen, but he seems like a good enough guy.

    Great idea and strategy, definitely thinking “outside the box” here!

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  • http://www.morethanorganized.net Miriam Ortiz y Pino

    I know it can work ‘cuz I used it on Dean Hunt a couple of times. Once it worked, once it didn’t. You just don’t know until you ask and the worst that can happen is crickets. It is also so much faster to ask than to sit around wondering.

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  • http://deanhunt.com Dean Hunt

    Bill,

    He was a few days away from taking over as Conan as late show host… I doubt there has been a time in his career where he was hotter, or more in demand.

    Dean

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  • http://www.susanreaderonline.com Sue

    Deano
    A man after my own heart – same mindset – ask and you will be amazed … I do this all the time. It is not often people say ‘No’ if, as you say, it is pitched as a win/win situation :-)
    Thanks for sharing!
    Sue

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  • http://www.rafayqureshi.com Rafay Qureshi

    Woooah Nice =D

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  • tremaine

    thankyou! this really works i asked my mom if i can have a nintendo dsi!and she said yes!WOHOOOO!

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  • http://kitchenplaysetsreviews.com/ Trecia @ Kitchen Playsets

    Lovely stuff! Yes, the worst that can happen is they say no! So true – thanks for reminding me.

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  • http://let.allenbg.com LET light

    Great post.Thanks for sharing this with all of us.

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  • http://howtomake.comoz.net/ How To Make

    You could say that a delay not to be rich, but, as you say here, to have the necessary ingredients to get anything.

    And I think you give the formula here, simplememte be very curious and find a way to ask. As you say, the worst that can happen no matter, life goes on.

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  • cooldude

    Thank you. That was cool. :)

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  • making friends

    Great post, this is brilliant and I really enjoy your articles

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