Why It Is a BAD Idea to Try


Here is a true short story to explain what I mean by “trying is a bad idea“…

About a year ago I got in touch with a contact who I was looking to do some business with… I sent him a message that said:

“Let’s try and chat tomorrow at 2ish”

His response was very eye-opening… he said:

“No, let’s not ‘try’ or ‘aim’ to chat tomorrow at 2ish, we are both adults, let’s DEFINITELY chat tomorrow at 2″

This may have seemed a little bit blunt, but the lesson was a good one, if you want to do something, then DO IT… by using language like “try”, “aim for”, “attempt”, etc… you are making it seem like a casual decision instead of an absolute commitment.

The person in question has gone from strength to strength over the past 12 months, and this lesson really stayed with me.

I still struggle with this myself, often trying to overly please people and sometimes not being able to deliver, so the re-telling of this story will act as a reminder to me too.

If you can relate to this story or have any thoughts then DO leave a comment below. ;)




  • hilary moore

    Couldn’t agree more. Every time i hear someone say i’ll try i say ” NO! You either do or you don’t. Forget the try thing. And as for the isn word – lets’s fix a definite time. Time is the most precious commodity – and if you value you, you value your time.” Ditto Dean.

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    • http://www.facebook.com/deanhunt Dean Hunt

      Hilary… exactly!

      I confess that I am occasionally guilty of this, which is why I wrote this blog post as a reminder.

      Speak soon,


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  • Trent Fortner

    Great point Dean. Try does not get us committed to action, just interested in a possibility.

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  • Kelley Hirst

    I’ll try is an expression of non-commitment. It is something people say when they are too “polite” to say No.

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  • Andy Iskandar

    I can relate … I always cringe whenever someone says the word try. I have a friend who always says the word try when it comes to deadlines and till now I don’t ever remember him actually meeting deadlines.

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    • http://www.facebook.com/deanhunt Dean Hunt

      Andy, a lot of people are guilty of it. If this post can help prevent even one “try”.. then it will be worth it ;)

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  • http://www.LifestyleOutlaws.com/ Craig Dewe

    Because someone has to…

    “Do or do not… There is no try” – Yoda.

    So when are we definitely chatting Mr Dean :)

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  • Tim Dawes

    Great short story Dean. Thanks. Sometimes think a story has to be pages to be effective. I love the directness.

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  • Anonymous

    Sometimes being blunt can be confused with being confident. No harm, no foul I say. Agree with being stern in your communication, absolutely.

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  • http://bonniecranmer.com bgreen

    YES! Being concise and following through is what makes an individual stand above the rest. Thanks for the reminder to give up try and get to DO! Great post, Dean!

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  • nifsindia

    so funny thing..really it is a bad idea…..

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